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Ep137 - Why do I need to cry so much? (and why crying is a good thing and important)

October 31, 2022 • Episode 137

In this episode we will talk about the question why we cry so much - especially during our healing process - and why crying is a good thing. It is an important part for getting better, but often quite confusing.
There is of course some opinions about who can and can’t cry and those are absolute nonsense. Crying is an important part of a healthy human being and mental health and also very important for bonding with other people.
We first start talking about why do we cry and then how it helps our healing process.

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Link to Cinema wins - Lessons Animation Taught Us: Inside Out (usefulness of sadness):
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Intro [0:00]
Hello my dears! My name is Johanna, and I welcome you to the Johanna Draconis - The Deconstruction Of C-PTSD podcast.
In this episode we will talk about the question why we cry so much - especially during our healing process - and why crying is a good thing. It is an important part for getting better, but often quite confusing.
So let us talk about it.

Prelude [0:28]
I know, that crying is not popular, because who wants to cry or be sad? Often accompanied by this feeling of misery. Though I think most of us remember at least one time, when we felt significantly better after we had a good cry.
There is of course some opinions about who can and can’t cry and those are absolute nonsense. Crying is an important part of a healthy human being and mental health and also very important for bonding with other people.
There is a great video from cinema wins regarding the usefulness of sadness titled “lessons animation taught us inside out”, a movie I can only recommend especially for a basic understanding how the brain works, and the link will be in the description.
Sadly, I also have to advise for caution in regards where and in front of who you cry, as it can lead to harmful consequences. Which will hopefully soon be a thing of the past.
We first start talking about why do we cry and then how it helps our healing process.

Why do we cry? [1:48]
To answer why we cry, we first need to narrow it down a bit. The crying of anger, grief, frustration, relief and pain are the ones we focus on. Like I said before, the crying serves a lot of functions, but these are the main ones we use for recovery.
These are pretty simple for our situation in its purpose, it is to express to others - and ourselves sometimes - the severity of our emotions and works as an overflow mechanism to prevent the whole system being flooded.
The problem sometime is, that we can’t cry in the moment we want to and then we kind of swallow the tears. This leads to the tears so to speak being stored in barrels inside of you and if you don’t empty them later on they likely become a burden.
Though if we wallow too much in sadness and crying we get overwhelmed, so we can not empty the whole storage of tears in one go - if we have a significant amount stored. Which we usually do if we start feeling this inner heaviness.
Then there is this other crying, where you just let it out. I am not sure which emotion to describe it with. The one where it just flows? That is the best cry - the one of healing. You usually will feel better after it - after letting it all out.
This sort of crying flushes out all the residue and bad things and if you do it regularly it really helps you - as long as you don’t surrender to it. It is also crucial for our healing process.

Helps the healing process [3:37]
It helps the healing process in mainly 2 ways, to deal with the all the emotions, frustrations, etc. we experience during the healing process and - of course - helps us deal with the past. In many ways and sometimes in very surprising ones.
Going through the healing process usually is an enormously frustrating, emotionally loaded and hurtful experience. There is only so much a person can shoulder - even the strongest among us - before they collapse.
Taking good care of yourself is absolutely vital for the healing process. By slowing down and having a cry to let out all the emotions - we lessen the pressure of it all. That is why taking it slow and taking breaks is SO important.
But it also means not being stuck in self pity, if you notice you are stuck, its best to put it aside and pick it up at a later point. Which of course also applies for things from the past. If the way is blocked it usually helps to look around for an alternative.
Usually crying is the final step in the trigger removal, but often also used along the way. I said that crying flushes out past residue, that includes trigger, traumatic experiences and also people. If they are small enough for it - so to speak.
I also said that one of the biggest and most important revelations was, that trauma isn’t one thing, but made out of smaller things. Which is the key to removing it fully - breaking away parts until there is nothing left.
That is why I say crying is a crucial part of the healing process. Even though I dislike it as much as anyone else, but for the pain to disappear, we need to cry. But is also important not to get lost in the sadness or tears. The goal is happiness after all.

Outro [5:51]
That was it for todays episode, I hope you found it helpful. Hope you are safe and well. And as always, if you have any questions or feedback and the like, please let me know at contactme@johannadraconis.com.
More information and transcript you can find as usually under johannadraconis.com/podcast/ and links are in the description.
I hope to see you next time. Watch yourselves and have a wonderful time.

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